Grief Counsellor | Fourways | Sandton
People tend to assume that the loss of a parent is more traumatic for a young child, and neglect to support adults experiencing it. But the reality is virtually everyone will experience losing a parent, and unfortunately, dealing with the grief is not discussed or researched often.
The common result is that when the tragedy happens, the sufferer might feel detached and alone in their mourning. Not to mention, when their grief continues over a long period of time, their loved ones can become impatient, wishing the mourner would ‘get over it,’ oblivious to the deep impact of losing a parent at any age.
However, experts agree that it’s important to recognize just how long-lasting the impact of the loss of a parent really is.
Studies have proven parental loss can have negative outcomes, mentally, emotionally, and physically. Of course, everyone experiences loss differently, and the effects can vary depending on the individuals:
- past experiences,
- coping mechanisms,
- relationship with the parent,
- environment and culture,
- and the circumstances of the death.
Another study in 2008 from the Journal of Clinical Oncology found a startling link between unresolved grief and health conditions such as immune disorders, hypertension, cardiac events, and cancer. Compared to parents who had worked through their grief after losing a mother and/or father, “parents with unresolved grief reported significantly worsening psychological health… and physical health.”
Grief Counsellors are trained to help each individual with their own unique situation in such a way as to find a way forward even though their world has changed. Find a way forward so that life for the bereaved and those close to them may still find hope moving forward.