Tips to improve your child’s self-esteem | Lonehill, Johannesburg Psychological Counsellor

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It is important to monitor self-esteem in each category and as a parent/caregiver/teacher attempt to foster a healthy self-esteem in all categories in children. Read this article in conjunction with my other article on self-esteem :

What is Self-Esteem, Self-Esteem Counselling, Self-Esteem Counselling in Lonehill Johannesburg Area

As a parent/caregiver/teacher below are a few tips that can help to improve a good self-esteem in your child or the children you are in contact with.

1. Value each child as an individual with unique strengths, needs, interests and skills.
2. Focus on the child’s strengths.
3. If the child does not participate in team sports, promote individual sports (e.g., skiing, golf, swimming).
4. Reject the child’s behaviour, but never reject the child.
5. Sincere interest can be more effective and meaningful than praise alone.
6. Establish realistic, achievable goals for your child.
7. Understand that mistakes are an inevitable (and valuable!) part of any learning experience.
8. When discussing an issue or a problem, avoid bringing up past difficulties.
9. Never compare one child to another.
10. Divide large tasks into smaller, manageable ones.
11. Communicate your confidence in the child and in their future.
12. Permit and encourage (within reason) the child to follow the normal fads of their peer group (e.g., clothing, music).
13. Emphasize the positive aspects of their behaviour or performance, even if the task was not completely successful.
14. Look for opportunities to offer the child age appropriate choices to allow him them to practice decision-making skills and give them age appropriate chores or responsibilities.
15. Spend quality time with the child, doing things that the child enjoys.
16. Be a positive role model.
17. Create a Safe Home Environment
18. Never, ever, communicate disappointment in the child. The disappointment of an adult (especially from a parent) may be too great a burden for a child to carry.

Practical examples and tailored solutions for children, adolescents and parents can be made in reference to the above. For a more detailed account of the above, personal one on one sessions or talks and workshops please contact Janine on